Tuesday, May 28, 2024

3 Signs of Unprocessed Trauma

Unprocessed trauma can result from any event that makes someone feel threatened or in danger.

Symptoms of unprocessed trauma often emerge in disruptive physical, emotional, or psychological symptoms.

Trauma imprints

That’s the imprint of trauma: an event makes you feel threatened or in danger and overwhelms you with panic and fear.

It doesn’t matter if the danger is real or imagined. The feelings left behind by trauma won’t be reasoned with. Trauma is immune to logic.

Symptoms of unprocessed trauma frequently emerge as:

Physical symptoms: heart palpitations, sweating, or shaking

Emotional symptoms: panic, feeling trapped or terrified

Psychological symptoms: avoidance of situations that trigger the trauma

Source: Psychology Today

Broken things...

If there is no access (or very limited access) to the resources and tools necessary to guide oneself towards health and growth, a person's internal world can, unfortunately, become filled with broken objects that seem beyond repair.

Thus, things (particularly bonds and relationships) are damaged or simply thrown away, rather than repaired (note that, yes, sometimes, SOME bonds and relationships are simply beyond repair, but that is not the same as believing that EVERYTHING that is damaged is irreparable).

You'd be surprised how many seemingly irreparable things can be repaired in therapy.

Likewise, there is space to mourn for those that unfortunately cannot be repaired, because life is made of broken, damaged, mended, repaired and irreparable things.

Stay safe, stay happy, stay you. - Izzy 💛

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Oxyquote #031

Last September 10 was World Suicide Prevention Day and every second Thursday in September, this day in Australia is dedicated to "R U OK? Day", a day dedicated to reminding us to ask this question to family, friends, colleagues and others in a meaningful way, because we never know how important this simple and short question can be for someone who is going through a bad time or thinking about taking his or her life.

It's okay to ask. Although we may feel weird or embarrassed doing so. Although we may be afraid of the response they can give us.

The key is to connect and to stay connected, with ourselves and with others.

A timely question can make all the difference in the world.

Stay safe, stay happy, stay you. - Izzy

(If you want to learn more about "R U OK? Day": https://www.ruok.org.au/)

Friday, September 8, 2017

Oxyquote #029

I made this doodle while thinking about Sinead O’Connor. Like many of the “rich and famous”, depression, substance abuse, suicide and mental + emotional breakdowns have been part of her story under the spotlight. And when the spot light is not shining bright above them, it surprises us to discover that despite being so popular, they find themselves alone, isolated and without the proper support network to help them through times of trouble. No one to ask for help. No one to realize you need help.

Like so many others who suffer from mental disorders or who are trauma survivors, they are also forced to struggle with the stigma, the shame, the guilt, the inadequacy, the feeling wrong/bad/damaged/ugly about something you shouldn’t have to feel this way about, since nobody ever chooses to suffer from a mental disorder or to become a survivor of trauma.

When we discover Sinead’s story of trauma, as she relates having suffered physical and sexual abuse at the hands of her mother, we can better understand and empathize with her suffering. Trauma changes us. Especially when suffered from such a young age, for such extended periods of time and when the perpetrator is someone so close to you as your primary caretaker. Those who are supposed to take care + protect you.

I hope Sinead gets a chance to work through her story of trauma and heal those wounds from the past. I hope for a life with less stigma for all those who suffer from mental disorders and the long lasting effects of trauma in their lives. So you know, if you are suffering, please, please, please ask + scream + cry for help. Stay safe, stay happy, stay you! - Izzy

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Oxyquote #005

Don’t settle with being a little puzzle piece when you can be the whole puzzle! :) - Izzy

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Oxyquote #004

Oxyquote #004: Healthy love is not one person satisfying the other’s every need! - Izzy :)

Monday, December 19, 2016

Damn Oxytocin! | Oxyquote #003

Oxyquote #003: Healthy love is not two halves making one whole! - Izzy :)